17 Quick Affirmations That Will INSTANTLY Help You Feel Better About YOU

Do you ever use affirmations? An affirmation is a POSITIVE message you tell yourself to replace a negative concept you have about yourself. The whole concept of positive affirmations may really rub some of you the wrong way. You may be thinking, I just think something positive and then I believe it? Nope.

Perhaps you could get into the practice of using THIS mantra!?

But you know WHAT!? Your thoughts are SO wildly strong, that YES, if you continue to practice a specific positive affirmation, you WILL start to believe in its message and feel better about YOU.

For an affirmation to work, consider the following:

  • Repeat your affirmation on a consistent, regular basis
  • If possible, repeat the affirmation into a mirror so you can see yourself saying it
  • Create affirmations that are focused on YOU and your specific needs
  • Recite your affirmations in the present tense
  • Write down your affirmation from time to time, or look at your affirmation in written form as well as repeating it to yourself
  • IF you are comfortable with this…ask another individual to repeat your affirmation to YOU. When you hear someone else express a sentiment, it can be very effective.

Soooo when should you use these bad boys!? Use affirmations when you need a pep talk. Try using affirmations in the following places of your life:

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How I Rocked My Hawaii Trip With My Kids

It was NOT supposed to go down like this. Not at all. A milllllion percent not what I had envisioned for myself and my kids. Hawaii. It’s supposed to be paradise, right? Try jumping on a plane and heading to Maui literally two days after you have served your spouse divorce papers. Yea, not a very cheerful experience. Now, you may be sitting there thinking to yourself, “Why even GO!? I would rather just stay home!” And you know what friends, I did contemplate that. I did consider staying home to avoid the pain that was the death of my fantasy vacation. But then a couple things started jangling around in this head of mine.

“You have been telling your kids you’re going to Hawaii for months. Their mom should be there with them.”

“Hey, guess who helped pay for the airline tickets and the room? Uh, you. You worked your ass off for this.”

“Even though it isn’t what you thought it was going to be…you can still have fun.”

“Hey Emily, you DESERVE this.”

So I went, guys. I freaking went to Hawaii with my husband that I’m splitting from and my two small children and I’m here to tell you I survived. And if I’m being honest, I didn’t just survive. I had such joyful and beautiful moments during this trip that I feel strengthened as a mom, woman, and human being.

Did I cry a few times? Yes. Did I experience wicked self doubt? Oh yes. But I stopped and I breathed, I reflected on a few of my mantras, and I remembered that I’m strong and capable and I have so much to be grateful for. And then I pushed on, mamas.

For anyone that experiences anxiety, you’ll know going to new places can make you feel uncomfortable. And I’m sure some of you reading this know that can be an understatement! Add on being solely responsible for young children and it takes it to a whole other level. It can make you want to stay right in your bubble. You may tell yourself you can’t leave the safety and comfort of your house, or your hotel room, or your routine for fear of losing control. I get you, mama. But pop the damn bubble and go. You just gotta do it. Continue reading “How I Rocked My Hawaii Trip With My Kids”

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5 Things You NEED to STOP Saying to Empower Yourself, Mama!

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Yo I’m Emily, I’m 30, and I’m going through some roughhhh times.  I’m fighting a lot of nasty head noise these days, but I’m doing my best to empower myself and come out of my situation stronger than ever.  I’m doing everything I can to show up, be present, and spread positivity to myself and those around me (especially to the awesome mamas out there that are working hard and holding it down!).  I’ve found that there are some ideas that have been floating around in my head for awhile that are not healthy and are actually holding me back as a woman.  I’ve made the decision to consciously remove them from my brain. Here are five things we need to give up in our vocabulary, ladies.

I just need ________________ and then I’ll be happy.  I need to lose weight, I need to be better about getting to the gym, I need more friends, I need to make more money, I need my skin to clear up, I need this man to make me feel special, I need to have this many likes on social media… The list could go on and ON.  No. NOOOOO.  You don’t need ANY of that shit to be happy.  Lemme say that again for the people in the back: YOU DO NOT NEED EXTRINSIC THINGS IN ORDER TO BE HAPPY.  Okay, I’m going to say something truly cliche and you may wanna punch me… You guys, happiness comes from inside your own brain.  Truly.  I read this AMAZING AF article that was originally published by The Cut that centered on an extremely popular course at Yale.  The class is alllll about how to be happy.  Seriously.  A course designated to help people legitimately learn what happiness is and effective strategies for how to obtain happiness.  I read this article like, every week to remind myself of its merits!!  I’m not kidding. Continue reading “5 Things You NEED to STOP Saying to Empower Yourself, Mama!”

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How to Respond When People Tell You, “Your Daughter is SO Beautiful!”

I know everyone says their kids are gorgeous, but seriously guys, my daughter is gorgeous.  Yes, I KNOW I am biased, duh.  But I truly mean she is stunning.  If you have ever met Claire, then you would know this to be true.  Claire is part Indonesian, part Japanese, part Polish and 100% American.  Ever since she was a baby, complete strangers would make comments about her looks.  “Those eyes!”, “That skin!”  And if I’m being completely honest, my heart is filled with pride over that fact that I was apart of creating such a beautiful human.

Claire, now age 6 and half, completely understands what these strangers are saying about her when they offer these compliments to me.  While she knows people admire her for her unusual skin and eye combo, she doesn’t get what all the hype is about.  “Mama, do I have tan skin?”, she’ll ask me.  Or she’ll tell me, “My eyes are like daddy’s eyes.  Buddy doesn’t have eyes like me.”  She is becoming aware of herself and how others perceive her and it freaks me out. Continue reading “How to Respond When People Tell You, “Your Daughter is SO Beautiful!””

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